Another Mental Case

Seriously friends, this blog could be really interesting, or unbelievable, if i was able to blog every little drama that goes on. But you may not want me to hehe. We do have a new episode on our farm. It's DH's uncle now, FIL's brother.
It started last week with him calling here. I noticed it on caller id but was never home to answer it. Eventually he left a message saying something about cows in his corn b/c there is no fence across the creek. DH goes out and checks it, fence is there. Flash forward a couple days later when we have the gully of rain come and it washes out the fence and THEN cows get in his corn field.
Then comes Friday where the said uncle shows up HERE at our house. I was driving down the driveway behind him so he didn't know I was there. He notices me, lets me park in the garage, and then he gets out to start beckin at me about leaving messages, calling, fences, etc. I played kinda dumb and said yeah DH checked fence and it was there but got washed out after that big rain. Yes we had cows in there, 3 of them, got them in, etc. He is very cross with me and says WHO'S COWS ARE THEY!? At which point I just tell him he needs to go talk to DH, they aren't my cows, and I have nothing really to do with this. He leaves saying how he's going to tell the insurance agent that there was no fence. Whatever, that's why we carry insurance.
They proceed to drive to the farm where DH is loading out corn. Said uncle yells in the bin at him, DH is really irked now, and the exchange of words begins. DH telling him there was a fence there, crazy uncle says you think I can't see??
Well truth be known, he does have poor vision AND there is no way in HECK he could see if there was a fence or not, from the road. For the first time DH is pissed, and yes that's the word HE uses. Not to mention he calls him an ass. Those that know DH know he does NOT use language like that without it being warranted.

OK this is getting long. Let's skip to now. Yesterday during Miss A's party we get a call from crazy uncle. I find out later that he is yelling at DH going on and on about fences, cows, etc and DH hangs up on him. That must have fueled his fire. This AM we get word from BIL that he called there house ALL night long. And not just at 9pm but 1AM, 2AM, 4AM, etc can you believe that????

If we would have gotten called at that hour it would NOT have been pretty. (BTW that did happen right after we got home with C'man you know sleep is majorly deprived, etc and it's DH's mail carrier that he subs for drunk off his ars needing DH to work for him. Mind you it was 1AM!!! I was out of it when I answered the phone and was called some pretty nasty names when I reminded him its 1AM, GO TO BED!! STOP CALLING HERE till your sober. That warranted me as a bitch from his friends. We did get a written letter of apology at my demand.) back on track....so here we are now.

BIL never answered the phone and gave the deputy a call this AM and a report is being filed. They will then come out to crazy uncle's house and let him know whatever they need to. This is going to get SO interesting. He's the type of person you never know could take you out with a shot gun. His mental issues are on a different level then FIL. FIL is not harmful where as uncle nut could be!!

Now I'll need to keep an eye out for him coming over here. If he shows up I will have to get the kids in the house ASAP and lock the doors. I will not talk to him, not even thru a window.

It really is all so sad. To see this mental war going on b/w two brothers really is sad. This Uncle Nut has been pretty much cut off by the family for earlier issues within the family. As in he tried to get his blind MOTHER to sign some sort of agreement about land. She figured it out and kicked him out.

Stay tuned as I'm sure this is going to get even more interesting. Isn't my life full of such fun!?

You Tell Me

OK so you tell ME what you would like me to blog about!! How's that. Wait, that would be assuming I have readers, which I know there are a few, AND that you are brave enough to post a comment. Or go ahead and email me:)

Appreciating the comments you are posting and hope they continue. Again respecting everyone's point of view but grateful for the challenges you may have in reading someone elses. I think that's great and I'll be the first to admit, getting someone else's point of view can only broaden your view (good or bad).

DH thought I should blog about the weather. Are you kidding me? You know you're in trouble in a conversation when you discuss the weather.

I wish I could say things are calming down on my FIL's side of things, but I can't. Just a quick update would be:
-MIL is out in Seattle staying with her sister for a couple of weeks
-FIL is getting injections of medicine
-He keeps having these 'revelations'
-Recently he has taken to coming HERE. Not sure if he comes over to vent, he's lonely, hungry, or what but I have to repeatedly remind him please do NOT discuss your issues in this house OR in front of the kids.

I still would welcome anyone that has experience to please email me or leave me a comment and I'll email you. Experience with dealing with mental illness yourself, aging parents, or counseling background. We are getting so frustrated with no progress and we worry about the outcome if things don't start taking shape. Although with his mind the way it is, I'm not sure progress is even possible.

If you would take just a quick moment and let me know what you'd like me to blog about that would make me feel like a million bucks LOL!!

No One Understands

Here I sit at 645AM. My coffee is still brewing, one child is sleeping, the other is laying in bed with DH. SHE decided to wet her bed at 5AM and get in bed with us. Wish it was just that simple. Of course 'I'm HUNGRY' comes out of her mouth every .5 seconds followed by screaming fits b/c DH nor I are getting out of bed. Sick of listening to it, I get out of bed and hop in the shower to drowned out her screaming, fearful of her waking C'man up.
She now is laying quietly upstairs and everyone else is asleep. But my real frustration for today is once again a quick trip to Omaha has to be cancelled due to a Psychologist appt that DH and his brothers are to attend. It's like good GRIEF how much longer will we continue to put our life on hold.
Let me back track. Things are no better then they were 5 weeks?? ago. MIL stayed with us this past weekend, FIL still thinks nothing is wrong with him. He stopped taking his medicine therefore causing the doc to give him injectable. I think that's a great idea, however he doesn't. No surprise there I guess. What is so frustrating is that manic people do not think they have a problem, that's a lot of the problem. But then you throw in a marriage that has been on the brinks for decades, 2 ultra-dependable sons that try to solve all the problems, 2 sons that have removed themselves from the situations, and we get where we are today.
I really am at a loss at what to even suggest or do. I'm to the point where I think it's time the boys tell them that while we love you both it's time for you 2 to sort it out. If that means you separate, so be it. If that means you both live here, then so be it, but we have got to come to some resolution. We will not pick sides, we will not continue to run over here at all hours of the day (yes that means at night too) But something has got to change. We have dealt with this 24/7 for over 6 weeks now with absolutely NO headway accept more frustration in the families left at home. AKA US.
Do I have any readers (haha) that can relate? Offer any form of advice? How long will life continue like this for us all? Last night we ALL went out to eat. Our family, FIL and MIL and 2 nieces. FIL ate and then sat with his hands in his face the rest of the time. He mumbled things here and there and a couple times did smile at comments made by our kids, nieces, etc then he started going off about how the courts want him to get shock therapy and chemo!! Yeah I think there is a slight misreading there on the chemo part.
It makes me so sad to see this, it really does. To see ones family just crumble b/c of mental illness is one tough pill to follow. Then you start to wonder, well does HE have the problem or is it his wife!? As my FIL said last night 'no one understands' to which I replied: 'You are absolutely right!! That's why we have medical professionals that do that tell us what we need to do so that either we can understand, or at least get to the point in our life where we can function'.