I feel like a broken record as I know I have blogged in the past about this, as well as posted things on my facebook. I'm truly at a loss of what more to do with her. She starts of her AM, very early i may add, screaming. She's mad that the gate is up (i don't want her going downstairs alone). Then she's mad b/c DH is either gone, or leaves while she's awake.
Ahhh....DH. Here in where my problems are. She is SUCH a daddy's girl. I don't mind that, really, BUT she and her for that matter can not say good bye. She has a fit when he leaves and what does he do, stops turns around and tries to comfort her. I just want him to leave. I also want him to get more stern with her. At night time (I'd prefer he not even be around at bed time b/c things go WAY like 100% smoother, w/o him) she whines to be read to. He reads. That's OK if it's just one book and not past 8pm. Then she doesn't want him to leave and he hugs, tells her whatever, and it just drags on and on. She throws a fit, he runs back in. Then she wants a sippy WITH ICE! He gets that of course not realizing that it sweats therefore making her bed a wet mess.
So yeah, I'm really needing him to step up and discipline her. She needs to know that daddy can discipline and say no too. I'm ALWAYS the one doing it all b/c I'm with them all the time. When he's home they sit and watch TV, hang out, etc.
I'm sorry if this is making no sense but today has just been a really bad day. The last week I've woken up at 545AM to her screaming about one thing or another. Today was really bad b/c i had her in our room watching TV. DH was downstairs getting ready for work and he came up to get shorts. Rather then just sneak in and out, he had to make a big deal of talking to her. She flipped out when he left. What followed was a big ol mess. She screamed, hit, kicked and eventually I was crying in the bathroom. C'man wakes up, gathers his wits and says 'I gotta get outta here'. I thought ME TOO!!
I told DH about this and am hoping that if not for me, he will do it for C'man and really try to be an active part of the discipline with Miss A.
I know I've heard other mom's say too that the dad always gets all the fun. We are trying to cook supper, do laundry, blah blah all day long with the kids under foot. Daddy comes home and it's like the super hero is here.
DH is now gone to the farm. Another fit ensued. C'man and her our out in the garage doing I don't even want to know what, with the chickens. I'm afraid I'll freak out when i find out what's going on but I'd best go look.
PRAY FOR ME!! I'm REALLY needing it. My patience are being tested.
Saturday, May 30, 2009
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HEAR HEAR!! those DH's have not a clue! I agree, he needs to nip it in the bud with her, (with any kid) and not draw out the good bye's. Maybe you should videotape the screaming. Every day. and show him at supper/lunch time when he's there. Every day! Get C'man's responses too, since it is obviously affecting him. DH probably thinks it's funny somewhat and gives him a sense of being needed with her requests, since he's not the one doing the basic cares for the house (you know, laundry, baths, cooking, cleaning, discipline). Yes, ice in a sippy? A bit much. Heard of NO lately? I'm paying for it with my little guy, we never told him no until age 3. Now it's SCREECHING at the TOP of his voice to get his way. ANYWHERE! Kick DH in the bum, and keep at him to step it up. Or, cut him out of those stressful routines (yes you need a break, but it's worse when he does it). Obviously I have some lingering issues with my clueless hubby who gives in and doesn't see anything as a big deal, and then I have to redo all the unraveling he's done. ARGH!
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