I'm typing this on Wednesday while it's fresh on my mind. I'm SOOO fricken confused. The PA called today about my miscarriage 'results'. Use that term loosly b/c i'm not sure we have results like I wanted. She told me 'it was the baby'. Well YEAH but what do you mean. She said they took tissue....still confused and when I told her to dumb it up for me she was just like what do you mean you don't understand?
So something was wrong with the baby??
But what? Was there a birth defect? Can that be determined that early in a pregnancy? Can they tell if it's hormone related??
I just felt like I was the one that didn't know anything and now am more confused then ever. When I asked 'so basically the test results aren't telling me anything? she said 'yeah'.
So is that what I go with?? HELP!! I have to go get my hemoglobin tested when we get back from Disney and will hopefully have more time, and questions, to ask her.
She did say tho that she wants to refer me to an OB, no surprise there, and to not even try to get pregnant for another 6 months. Of which I whole heartdly agree.
I told her that when I miscarried in May and got pregnant the following December, and miscarried, that my cervix still showed signs of the May miscarriage.
I know I have people going thru Infertility and dealing with miscarriages that read my blog. If there is one bit of advice I can give, and Lord knows I could give LOTS, it's PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE let your body recover after a failed cycle and or miscarriage. I strongly feel the worst thing one can do is hurry up and get pregnant again. I know many docs just say well lets try for next month and I seriously think they are WRONG! Your body had a tramatic event happen to it. Failed IVF cycle, clomid cycle or a miscarriage it needs to reset itself. It takes at LEAST 6 months to do that. I could find research to support that but I'd rather just speak from personal experience. We all know there is research to combat everything you find too.
I know that's not what you want to hear b/c you so want to be pregnant. Trust me it'll help in the long run and possibly prevent you from further heart aches. I will say that IVF cycles are a little different b/c your body is controlled by stong arse meds. But even there it's generally 2-3 cycles before you can start up again.
But back to me.... hehehe can anyone advise me on what I should ask? Or can anyone explain based on the little bit I know?? Or ask me some questions and I can tell you if she said anything about that? Comment or email me if you would.
Friday, January 8, 2010
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Very hard to say with very little information. If she was implying that there was a problem with the baby that caused the miscarriage it was probably that they did analysis on the tissue and found a chromasomal abnormality. There is evidence that there is a higher incidence of miscarriage in pregnancies where there is a problem with the baby. Did you have any testing in the previous miscarriages? Sometimes this is a one off thing and sometimes it can be a pattern. Your Ob may want to do some testing on yourself and your husband if there is a chance that an abnormality was not a once off.
I don't know of this is any good at all to you. If you want to e mail me with any more info she had I will certainly try and explain to you what she was saying if I can understand it.
I am really sorry you are going through this. Try and enjoy Disney as much as possible.
P.S I have a new email: eandfmon@gmail.com if this is any good to you
The genetic testing is a couple thousand per person. We didn't do it. BUT if that would help, it's a good route. Your doc would not have ordered genetic testing on any tissue without your permission. Insurance/cost/consent issues there. AND it takes more than a couple of months to get results back. We did Eliza's June 22 and didn't get any results until the end of August. Genetic testing is easy, but lengthy in waiting for the results.
I hope you can have more fun at Disney! The kids say "Hey" to C and A!
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