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I wish I could post that things are going just great with FIL, but I can't. The docs aren't even talking Bi-Polar anymore. He would try to trick the docs/nurses in to thinking he took his meds, he still gets very angry and yeah it's all just SUCKING!
There's so many questions and NOTHING is clear. It's so flippin complicated. I'm sorry Megs if you had to find out via my blog. (I advised that someone call you b/c I didn't want you reading it here).
In some ways the family has grown together but in more ways it hasn't. Things have been said, relationships are strained, and who knows what will continue to evolve in the next week, month or even years to come. Whether someone is in the right mind or not, when hurtful things are said, they are not forgotten.
I feel that spouses/family have been put on the back burner and while that should be OK, it isn't to the extent that we've felt it. Myself in particular has been working very hard at keeping life 'normal'. Luckily, DH isn't around consistently as in some days he's here when the kids wake up, go to bed, lunch, supper, etc but then other days, like here of lately he's gone from dawn till dusk. The 1030PM, 230 AM calls are gone as well as the all night babysitting, 4AM trips to the Casino, and operating on less then 4 hours of sleep, are also gone. I'm frightful that it will all return if my FIL is released Monday. He is great at convincing others (not family members) that there is 'nothing wrong'. He can talk with the best and manipulate you with you not even knowing.
I think my MIL is an enabler and I think the man needs to sit in his room and think about things. Family has been by to visit him (playing lots of cards) non stop and I just don't think he's even had time to reflect on his behavior.
He's been asking to see our kids but I just will not allow them to see him. C'man is way to sensitive for one and will ask lots and lots of questions. He'll wonder why papa isn't at the farm, why he's in the hospital and I just know he'll talk and talk (ie, dwell and dwell) on it. Then there's the other patients in there. Like the lady walking in and out of rooms saying 'I'm just going to kill myself, know one will care'. My FIL says he hates being 'with the crazies' and will often yell/mutter at her to go away:)
That's the low down. Tomorrow is Father's Day. We have no plans of going to see FIL. If DH chooses to go, that is fine. We aren't even going to my parents like we have for years and years. We are going to celebrate it just our family. I'm HOPING to go to a local water park. We also are going to try and attend a new church.
Again, thanks to those who have left comments and emailed me. I REALLY appreciate it and if anyone has any expertise medical issues, (does that make sense?) please contact me.