I'm having a heck of a day, even a couple weeks, with Miss A. I'm really getting to the point where i can't stand her. I feel horrible for saying that but I'm truly at my wits end with her. She has such a temper and now she's back to spitting. I'm hoping the parenting police don't flame me. She spit awhile back and then it stopped. Now it's started up again. I resorted to putting soap in her mouth. That lasted till today which i now have decided to just ignore it.
This weekend i went to my parents after the HUGE indoor garage sale I went to. That was CRAZY!! Another post another day. My parents got to see first hand how she acts. When she spit and i went to put soap in her mouth my mom ran out the room. I can't stand to watch it. Knowing that it was necessary she just was being a g'ma hating to see her g'children disciplined. Even my dad tried to help by raising his voice.(i don't mean like screaming just enough to catch her attention and allow me or him to talk some reasoning with her) I think he did it b/c he felt bad for me. He could see i was trying to get things under control and struggling. It did make her stop screaming but then that made mom mad b/c she didn't think Dad should do anything. But like i said, he was just trying to help me out. I really didn't mind.
Yesterday Miss A was outside walking to the play ground. Mom went and got her and she threw a fit. Mom could barely carry her back. She stiffens her back, kicks, screams and hits! Then the spitting starts. Mom truly felt my pain in that moment.
If things don't go her way it's fit time. Mr C tries so hard to play with her and all she does is scream at him. He hangs his head and walks away, sometimes. Today my FF-S and her kids and us went for a walk on the trail.
We walk to the park, play, eat and then head back. Miss A was very snotty to her daughter. Pushing her away, hitting her, screaming, you get the idea. I wasn't very happy with her. FF-S says 'well Cassie could leave her alone, it's good for her to get whomped on'. Bless her soul but i said it doesn't make it right. She doesn't know any better but Miss A does know better then to hit.
Then tonight at supper she wouldn't eat anything. I told DH NO dessert. It's time for her to learn that. What a fit she thru. I let DH deal with her. Eventually tho, she did eat a couple bites and was able to get her ice cream. She didn't hit, etc but she did her spitting thing. I told DH just ignore it. It's my new way of dealing with it. When i say spit it's more like bubbles.
OK so here's where you come in. Please offer me some suggestions, advice, comfort, WHATEVER I'm pulling my hair out over our constant power struggle. Mom says she doesn't think she's strong willed necessarily but just doesn't mind if she gets negative enforcement. It's like she thinks if i get disciplined I got mommy's attention. If i ignore it well then things could really get out of hand. I'm really thinking a/b taking her to the voodoo doc again.
Did i also mention that sleeping at night has been horrible. Especially at my parents good gosh we both slept horrible. Also her teeth are coming in so this could all be related to the eye teeth coming in. My mom said my sister and brother were just rotten when there eye teeth were coming in. FF-S said Cassie was too ( i happen to remember that with her).
Also do you think she could have an ear infection? She doesn't pull on her ears or anything but definitely could be something like that. FF-S thought she looked pale today. Miss A is eating and drinking, etc
OK that's enough rambling. Please if you lurk, this is one post i need you to reply too:)
PS horrible pic of me, wind blown hair, no makeup, etc but who cares right??
3 comments:
Wow, she has got big! Mmmh, advice on spitting? How old is she? I suppose you have tried all the normal stuff like Time-out etc? You guys don't spank hey? Pity, I love giving a good smack when I feel it is deserved. (Don't tell the P-Police) Sherbert, I am being very unhelpful aren't I. Sorry, how about I tell you how great your house is looking?
I can't remember how old Miss A is... almost 2, right? J is going to be 2 a month from now, and we are going through similar struggles.
I end up not taking her anywhere alone for fear of the screaming fits that will happen.
She's very opiniated and when she doesn't get her way, we pay for it - big time. She hates to come inside, she hates to hear "no binky" (yea, that's a whole nother struggle), she wants "cookie monsters" (cookies) all the time. It's driving me to drink. I feel your pain!
I think the less attention to the behavior that you don't want (unless she is hurting herself or others) is better. Be sure to praise her every little attempts or accidental good things she does, especially around her friends.
As mom to two wild worked up boys, I understand.
Mr A will SCREAM/SCREECH at the top of his lungs if he can't walk at Walmart, and boy does it echo. I've had several older ladies either glare at me or say, yep been there. I'm trying to learn to lay out my expectations and stick to them.
We aren't perfect, we are both yellers at times. MR A is into talking back, and Mr C is into completely ignoring, whining/crying, or bartering/changing rules. Kids are challenging, and know when we are frustrated. Then they act up!
Good luck.
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